The High King Lives

My Family Rocks! Sunday: Love languages, Bourbon Chicken, and Pinterest January 23, 2012

Hello hello friends! Pull up a chair. Today is My Family Rocks! Sunday. Time for all things pertaining to family. Today I want to talk about how love languages affect our whole family. I also have some tasty recipes you can try for dinner this week. Lastly, I’ve tried some fun school tips on Pinterest and I’m sharing them with YOU :).

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#1 Love Languages

Gary Chapman wrote a phenomenal book that has changed the way couples view love. It is called “The Five Love Languages”. In his book, Mr. Chapman proposes that everyone has their own love language and their are five types. Some people may have several love languages but ultimately most people gravitate towards certain languages more than the others. Since we all have a different love language sometimes others do not understand us. We may be showing love to someone but they just don’t get it because it’s not in a language they understand.

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The five love languages are as follows: Words of Affirmation, Quality time, Receiving gifts, Acts of Service, and physical touch. Say you are a “Words of Affirmation” type person and your spouse is “Acts of Service”. Your spouse may wash the dishes and take out the trash but they rarely say “I love you” or tell you that you are good looking. Your spouse thinks they are showing you love because afterall  serving is how they show love. But you DON’T feel loved because your love language is “Words of Affirmation”. So how do we bridge this gap? We are all speaking different languages… the fact that men and women are already so different (women are spaghetti and men are waffles and all that jazz).

Well, what do you do when you go to a foreign country? Do you just wander around screaming English in a Spanish speaking country? Do you yell “Hey! Listen to me people! I said I need help! Speak some English!”  No way! That would be ridiculous, right. If you’re going to a foreign country then it’s in your best interest to learn atleast some of the language.

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We often enter relationships with ridiculous expectations. We think our spouse (or family member or friend) will transform into our likeness. That they will somehow be able to read our mind and understand why we do what we do. It’s not that simple. God made us all unique with our own special personalities. Plus, we all come from different backgrounds. So we need to learn each others love languages.

Let’s go back to the first example. Say you finally realize your spouse’s love language is “Acts of service”; then you begin to understand your spouse IS showing you love. You then know that your spouse would rather you help them out with the chores than write a 10 page love poem. You can also teach your spouse your own language. Be blunt. No one can read your mind! 🙂 Explain to them that although you appreciate them washing the dishes, you are the kind of person who needs to hear “I love you” and often. Even if they don’t want to try….YOU can still choose to show them love in their own language. You’d be surprised how unconditional love will warm a cold heart. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying let someone treat you like dirt.  It’s never good to stay in an abusive relationship. But if you are married to someone that is not absolutely evil….someone who just happens to be different from you then just watch….using the right love language can transform a marriage.

But I want to propose to you that understanding the love languages can also transform many other relationships. I’m switching the focus from marriage to parenting.  Our children also have a love language.  It is just as important for us to know our child’s language. Here’s an example why:

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           My 5 year old son is a very loving child. He shows love in every language at this point. But I have noticed that he really likes to serve people. He is always willing to help out. He’s the kid who will hold the door for everybody at church….and I mean EVERYBODY. Well, my husband is a very independent person and he prefers to open his own door.  So my son would go to open the door for my hubby and my hubby of course told him not to. My guys have very different (but equally wonderful) personalities.

            Well, I realized that Michael (my son) was getting his feelings hurt because his Dad wouldn’t let him open the door. To me it didn’t seem like such a big deal and obviously not to his dad. But Michael shows love by serving and he felt rejected because he couldn’t open his Dad’s door. So the hubby and I talked about it. Now my hubby let’s Michael open his door. We realize it makes him feel accepted by his Dad when he’s allowed to serve him. We’ve also let him do more chores which has helped us all.  He now knows that we need him and he is contributing to the family. So I challenge you tonight to figure out your family members love languages and then try to show them love in their own language. If you can please leave me a comment with your experience :).

#2  Bourbon chicken, fried rice, and homemade biscuits.

This is a great dinner combo and it’s really easier than you think. This is one of my family’s favorite meals. I’m leaving you the recipes for all three. Note: the ingredients for the chicken and rice may be a bit pricy the first time you buy them but they last awhile. I understand how it is to live on a budget. Now, the biscuits are super easy and you probably already have all the ingredients for them now. I found the biscuits on Pinterest. Yaaa Pinterest!


Cut & paste these links into your browser 🙂  ( if you don’t like spicy stuff then you can put less ginger and crushed red pepper)

If you get a chance to make this meal please leave me a comment with your opinion 🙂 thanks!

#3 Math ideas from Pinterest

I LOVE Pinterest and I think I’m addicted to it….thanks to my bff Julie (it’s all your fault Frodo!).  But who really has time to use all the ideas we pin. I hope though to try atleast a fourth of the things I pin. If you have no clue what I’m talking about then I suggest you check out for yourself. It’s too much to explain.

Even better…here’s my pinterest:

I’ve got tons of great recipes and crafts on there already. Enjoy 🙂

Anywho, I found a great idea to teach math by setting up a play store. I had heard of this idea before but seeing how someone really did it helped me to finally try the idea myself. First off I made some fake money out of salt dough. If you look at my previous posts you will find a salt dough recipe. It’s super simple to make. Michael had the paper money but lost or tore up most of it. I decided he needed more durable money :). So far the salt dough money has worked. I traced real coins to get the fake ones close in size (pic above).

So then we set up the store. I wrote small prices on paper ( 1 cent up to 4 dollars…nothing too complicated) and let Michael cut them into squares. I helped him choose which prices (mainly low prices for small things and higher for bigger things). We also made a shelf so he could display items better. We used his toy Mcdonalds cash register to calculate alot of items but most things he wrote down on a receipt and added them together manually. The receipt idea also helped with writing skills.

Until Dad and Nana got home, I was Michael’s main customer (and a few stuffed animals lol). Michael put my purchases in a bag (paper or plastic) then put my receipt in the bag and told me “Thank you! Have a great day and come again!”. See…he learned good manners & work ethics as well. And the whole time HE thought we were just “playing”. I’m a sneaky teacher……Michael loves “playing” store so much that he has set up his own “Walmart” and “Toy R US” (that’s how he spelled it).

I also found a site on Pinterest that has money worksheets that teach how many coins are in a dollar. We loved this game as well. Here is the link:

Whether you homeschool or not, it is always important to say involved in your child’s education. If you have a young child that can use these ideas with, then please leave me a comment with your experience 🙂

Well, it is Monday now. Sorry 😦 *blush*. I started writing this on Sunday but it took longer than I expected and I’ve had a busy day. Forgive me. Tomorrow……errr ummm I mean later today I’ll have a Crafty Monday post with some great winter crafts….some for children and some adults will enjoy too 🙂

I leave you with this great music video called “Love is not a fight” by Warren Barfield

My favorite lines of this song are:

Love is a shelter in a raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
And if we try to leave, may God send angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight but it’s something worth fighting for

God bless and remember The High King Lives!

~Amber Dover

(edit: I found this great link that discusses the love languages & kids~     )


5 Responses to “My Family Rocks! Sunday: Love languages, Bourbon Chicken, and Pinterest”

  1. Mom Says:

    Woohoo! very helpful advice and ideas!

  2. Thanks for reading my Peru feature on Lesley Carter’s website today 🙂
    PS- My fiance and I read the 5 Love Languages in marriage prep!

  3. amberdover Says:

    I found a great link that discusses showing your kids love in their love language:

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