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The High King Lives

Crafty Monday: Spring Peg Dolls & Weather Crafts April 30, 2012

Hello friends and welcome to Crafty Monday. Last week I talked about my peg doll hobby and my hope to better it so I can sell my creations one day. I was very inspired after that post and spent the next two nights making a Spring box. I wasn’t sure if I was going to try to sell it or not but Michael automatically assumed it was his. So….it’s his now.

We are learning about bugs all in May and I thought it’d be neat to make some buggy dolls :). There’s a butterfly, a bee, a lady bug, and two flower people.

I used felt to make the flowers that I glued to the bottom.

I think this is my best set yet and it looks neater. Maybe I’m improving 🙂

Last Monday I mentioned we were going to do some weather crafts when we had time. Last Thursday we  had a short day of school and had a fun craft day. We used some of the ideas I mentioned last week. Links are on that post.

Rain Stick

I put nails inside a paper towel tube. I don’t think I put it enough because it doesn’t quite sound like rain. Anywho, the nails are supposed to slow the rice or bells etc down and make a rain sound.

Then I glued red construction paper to the tube.

That’s when Michael added rice, beans, and bells.

After, he  put on modge podge and decorated with feathers, tissue paper, glitter, and buttons.

Wind Socks

We simply took toilet paper tubes and painted them.

Then I cut up strips of paper and we glued them on for a handle.

Next, I cut strips of tissue paper and we glued them inside the tube so they’d hang down.

I added pipe cleaners to tie them to Michael’s play ground.

Easy Kite

You simply tie a string to a plastic bag and run with it 🙂

Fun Way to blow up balloons

Fill a bottle 1/3 with vinegar

then put some baking soda in a balloon

put the balloon over the bottle but keep it folded so the baking soda doesn’t come out

hold the balloon up to release the baking soda

watch the gas from the mixture blow up the balloon 🙂

You can tell we had fun!

Oh yeah, Michael got his Yellow belt. I’m so proud 🙂

God bless and remember The High King Lives!~Amber Dover

 

Storybook adventure in SecondLife, Mother Son dates, & Spinach Artichoke Dip

Hello friends 🙂 I’d say we’re having a weekend combo but my hubby needed my computer for schoolwork all weekend. So this is a late combo of Virtual Friday and My Family Rocks! Sunday. First, I’m going to share with you  this nifty spot in the virtual world that’s basically an interactive story book of  “Where the Wild Things Are”. Then I had a lovely weekend with my son at Disney on Ice and also a Mother-Son Date Knight at Chik-Fil-A (it’s supposed to be spelled that way). Lastly, there’s one of my favorite recipes, Spinach Artichoke Dip. Enjoy the pics and let’s begin!

#1 Interactive Story “Where the Wild Things Are” in SecondLife

Visit Harrison (160, 111, 42)

PS: My avatar is dressed up as Rapunzel from Disney’s “Tangled” 🙂


I am super excited to share this gem of the virtual world with you. I found this on SecondLife’s destination guide but it didn’t give any info about what story was interactive. I was pleased to find the adventure centered around the popular children’s book “Where the Wild Things Are“.

For those of you who don’t know, “Where the Wild Things Are” is a book about a little boy named Max. Max likes to pretend he’s a monster and dresses up like one. Max gets upset at his mother and refuses supper. He goes into his room and it magically transforms into the wilderness where he meets the Wild things.

Max has fun with the wild things but he soon misses his home and decides to leave. When he “returns” his mom has left his supper on the table and he eats it up.

There was a movie recently made about this book. It showed Max as a deeply disturbed child. It taught a good lesson but there were some disturbing and dark scenes.  I like the book better.

#2 Disney on Ice & Mother Son Date Knight at Chik-Fil-A

We had such a lovely weekend (well Thursday through Saturday really). We usually try to only do a couple of big events each month because money is tight. So we saved up and looked forward to Disney on Ice. It had been a couple of years since we had went to the show. Last time we saw Tinker Bell and there was alot of confetti and light tricks. Michael fell in love with the little fairy then but he’d probably deny it now lol. I still like to watch the Tinkerbell movies. If you don’t allow magic (even make believe kind) then you probably don’t watch alot of Disney. Our approach with the magic in Disney is open communication. Michael knows none of it is real and if he ever saw something weird or fairy like in real life he knows to rebuke it. 😉

Some of these pics are a bit blurry because of the smoke and lights. This Disney on Ice featured “The Lion King”, “The Little Mermaid”, “Peter Pan”, and “Lilo and Stitch”. It was of course hosted by Mickey, Minnie, Donald, and Goofy. Don’t judge me but we took our own snacks in my big bag. I didn’t have 50 bucks for refreshments….also we didn’t bring home any light up swords etc. That stuff just cost too much. Maybe another year….

Michael had never seen “Lilo and Stitch” so we watched it the next day. I had forgotten how kewl it was. Ohana means “family” :)…sigh.

Michael’s favorite Disney movie is “The Lion King”.

Mine is probably “The Little Mermaid” because it was the first movie I saw in the theater with my parents (before they divorced). As a kid I’d pretend I was Ariel.

I went around sing “Ah ah ahhhhh”. Family and friends liked to show me off and boost my ego but actually looking back I didn’t sound that good! I was 4 to 6. Thankfully they didn’t shatter my dreams lol. We have most of the Disney films on VHS from when I was a kid.

I didn’t realize it til afterwards but “Peter Pan” came out in the 50’s. Wow….

Chik-Fil-A is awesome. I love those people. Seriously, my local Chik-Fil-A has the best service. I also love how the kids meals have toys etc that teach morals. My son got a Mother’s Day book last time and he’s been filling it out. They also have family nights and lately I’ve seen Father-Daughter and Mother-Son date nights.

Michael and I saved up and planned to go to the Mother-Son Date Knight. They spelled it “Knight” because the theme was knights. Michael didn’t have a knight costume and I figured since it was a date we would dress up…

The tables were so pretty and we were waited on…at a fast food restaurant. How neat is that!

I loved the paper with conversation ideas on the table. One question asked if being a knight was all about sword fighting. Michael and I talked about how a knight has to be loyal, courageous, and humble.

Michael was my knight 🙂

They also had cardboard shields on the table and Michael drew a dragon for our crest.

On the back it showed the different symbols and what they mean’t. The dragon wasn’t on there but I think of the mighty leviathan. The leviathan’s scales were so strong that a spear couldn’t pierce  it. I have to admit…the leviathan is my favorite dragon/dinosaur. I love how detailed the Biblical book of Job is about this creature. I will also have a leviathan in my book, The Truth Seeker’s Chronicles 😉

Lastly, we ended our date by being chauffeured by a Hummer. We didn’t ride very long but Michael enjoyed it.

It was super kewl seeing the Chik-Fil-A cow.

I encourage you to check and see if your local Chik-Fil-A has any events. I hear the Father-Daughter dates have dancing. I believe “dates” with our children are important. It’s good to have one on one time. Especially if you have several kids…I’d suggest taking them out individually. It’s important on the date to listen to your child and talk about special things.

My favorite “date” with my Dad was this Father-Daughter Purity Ball. I pledged to stay pure and my Dad pledged to protect me. I dressed up in a prom dress and my dad in a suit. We had a fancy dinner and there was dancing. We learned how to waltz. I’ll never forget that. You never know when you will have your last dance with someone you love. My Dad had his legs amputated years later…

#3 Spinach Artichoke Dip

My fav recipe from food.com and it tastes just like the dip in restaurants 🙂

Directions:

  1. Preheat oven to 375°F.
  2. Mix together Parmesan cheese, spinach, and artichoke hearts.
  3. Combine remaining ingredients and mix with spinach mixture.
  4. Bake for 20-30 minutes.
  5. Serve with crackers or toasted bread.
Well, God bless and remember The High King Lives! ~Amber Dover
PS: I’ll send out the Crafty Monday post soon. I apologize for two posts in one day.
 

Inspirational Wednesday: Simplify April 25, 2012

Passage 1 Thessalonians 4:9-11 Amplified Bible
“9But concerning brotherly love [for all other Christians], you have no need to have anyone write you, for you yourselves have been [personally] taught by God to love one another.

10And indeed you already are [extending and displaying your love] to all the brethren throughout Macedonia. But we beseech and earnestly exhort you, brethren, that you [a]excel [in this matter] more and more,

11To make it your ambition and definitely endeavor to live quietly and peacefully, to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, as we charged you…”

Have a beautiful Wednesday friends 🙂 There’s something sweet about minding one’s business and enjoying the simple things…..

God bless & Remember The High King Lives! ~Amber Dover

A view from my window 🙂

 

Hear the Writer Roar! Tuesday: Realistic Characters April 24, 2012

Hello friends and I hope you’re having an inspiring Tuesday. Below, I have two links with great advice on creating good characters (namely the antagonist and protagonist).

http://bekindrewrite.net/2012/04/20/20-tips-for-creating-relatable-and-lovable-protagonists/

http://warriorwriters.wordpress.com/2012/04/23/the-key-ingredient-for-dramatic-tension-understanding-the-antagonist/

What makes a character memorable? I am convinced that people can sell almost anything if the characters are good. Here’s an example: compare the new Muppet’s Movie and Journey 2: The Mysterious Island. I’ve seen them both and they’re both very cheesy. But I absolutely loved the Muppet’s. I thought Journey 2 would make a great amusement park ride but the flick just stunk. What was the difference for me? the characters!

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The Muppet’s already had loveable characters that people grew up with. You have Kermit, the thoughtful and talented frog who also has a few commitment issues (you have to admit Miss Piggy is a little over the top). You have Gonzo the super eccentric but funny ummm….monster thing? Miss Piggy the drama Queen and ultimate diva. You have Ralph the musical introvert. Fozzy, the goof ball who craves attention. Then you have Animal who is completely reckless.

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Journey 2 didn’t have believable characters. It could’ve been a great movie. There was tons of action,a decent plot, and an incredible world. But the characters fell flat. You could’ve put any actor in the movie and they’d still fall flat. The lines just didn’t make sense. Things got dramatic way too fast. The grandfather got an attitude with Sean’s stepdad for no reason. He had never met the man…his reaction made no sense at all. Sean fell for the girl way too quick. I can get the whole love at first sight thing but there were no big  moments between the pair to give reason for any commitment.

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The characters had no depth. I could’ve handled all the cheezy/lazy lines had the characters been extremely likeable. I could’ve suspended my disbelief about the giant bugs and tiny elephants…I really could’ve got into it..but I didn’t because the characters didn’t act like real people. It was obvious they were actors spouting out cheezy lines that seemed to be a mixture of one liners from action movies.I couldn’t relate to the characters and so I didn’t care what happened to them.

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Now, the Muppet’s on the other hand were dear to my heart. I felt their pain. I almost cried….over the MUPPET’S! LOL…it takes real good writing to cause someone to cry over a cheesy kids film. My husband hates musicals but he was cracking up when the Muppet’s broke out into their 70’s musical number.

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The point is you can have a crazy fictional world…..you can have glittering vampires or a little green man that uses the force, as long as your characters are strong ;). If your characters are hollow shells that no one can relate to then they’re like robots and your book will fall flat. So may this be a lesson to all of us…..don’t be lazy when you create your characters and make sure their lines make sense with their personality.

God bless & Remember The High King Lives!~Amber Dover

 

Crafty Monday: Peg doll creations & Creation tees for Earth Day April 23, 2012

Hello, friends 🙂 (I”m realizing I use too many smileys lol). Welcome to crafty Monday. Little man and I have been so focused on his math these past two weeks that we haven’t been too crafty. Easter and piratey birthday stuff are over so our theme has been weather. April showers bring May flowers as you know ;). Yeah, next month will be all about bugs and flowers. I hope to get some crafting done this week. Here’s some of my ideas: Rain Stick and Wind Sock from
http://www.redtedart.com/2011/06/01/weather-get-crafty-weather-themed-crafts-and-tutorials/

Also, I put together this lapbook: http://www.homeschoolshare.com/weather_words_lapbook.php

So today’s post will be about past crafts and a fun hobby of mine…..making peg doll sets.

I am not quite a professional but I hope to perfect my art and maybe sell a few peg doll sets. Anywho, I’ll show you my dolls so make sure you can see the pictures :).

In the beginning I didn’t think much about sealing my work. So Michael’s peg dolls got scratched up fast. Recently I modge podged them all and they almost look brand new….except the Native Americans have lost their feathers.

My first peg doll set had a medieval theme. There’s a King, Queen, and Princess. Then there’s Robin Hood and Gisborne from BBC’s Robin Hood (I love that show).

I made a box for them later. The wooden castle and unicorn came from Michael’s craft store. I just hot glued it on. The baby Thumbelina was me playing around with salt dough.

Here’s the top:

My second peg doll set and the first one with a box was all about Fall. There’s Mr. and Mrs. Pumpkin,Scarecrow, and Chester (our black cat).  I will definitely be perfecting my fall tree because it’s rather pitiful.

Here’s the front of the Fall box:

For Thanksgiving we studied Native Americans and I made a couple of peg dolls to go with Michael’s teepee and his felt vegetable garden. Maybe I will make a box for them and some Pilgrims this year…..I could also incorporate a Thanksgiving table.

During Christmas time I made several peg doll angels for ornaments

Then I eventually made a Nativity box. I made the baby Jesus, Joseph’s staff, and the Magi’s gifts out of salt dough.

Here’s the front of the box. It’s a Nativity Silhouette.

Then came Pirates 🙂 I really had fun making Pirate Annie (the red head). I got the wooden ship from Michael’s.

I didn’t make peg dolls for Valentine’s but I did make some nesting dolls out of salt dough. They look cute but I couldn’t get them to fit inside each other. I’m still learning…

For Michael’s St Patrick’s Day box I just threw together a few “Irish” peg dolls. I got the idea from Pink and Green Mama’s blog (link on my blogroll). They looked so much better when I sealed them with modge podge later.

Then for Olivia’s (Michael’s girlfriend) Mermaid party I made her a Mermaid box

This was the first doll set I’ve given away. I’m pretty proud of it. You can’t see but there’s a real baby starfish glued to the mermaid’s hair. I got the wooden Mermaid from Michael’s.

I’m thinking in the future I can do themed princess sets…fairies…gnomes etc. I’m still learning. Some of my dolls have faces and some don’t. I guess it depends on my mood. I’m glad I have several sets I can perfect and possibly sell. Others have mentioned Bible characters etc…I’m sure I’ll add to the collection. Michael won’t play with these forever….so I’ve got to find children who will.

We didn’t do anything for Earth Day Sunday but we did make t-shirts last year. So here are the pictures.

Idea from http://www.thatartistwoman.org/2010/04/earth-day-glue-batik.html

Well, God bless and Remember The High King Lives!~Amber Dover

 

Handwriting Analysis: My Mom’s new blog

Hello friends :)! Last week I introduced you to my sister Jen and her blog as a children’s author. Well, everyone seems to be jumping on the blog wagon ;). I’m so proud to introduce my mom’s blog (link below). My Mom Ann Littlefield has studied handwriting analysis for years.  As mom puts it in her first post, Handwriting Analysis  is “the study of handwriting strokes to determine personality traits.”

Handwriting Analysis is a scientific and mathematical method. There’s nothing hoodoo about it. It’s not about telling the future or crazy stuff. I say this because people who have never heard of it before sometimes have weird assumptions. Yeah, it’s a precise and mathematical process that has the same results every time. A high “T” bar will always mean the same thing. It’s not based on the analysist’s own interpretation or emotions. My mom had to take courses to learn this. It’s really neat and alot of professionals use it. Handwriting Analysis can be used to understand the traits of criminals, to identify fraud, and even to see if certain personalities match. It would be great for counseling.  The police force have been using it for a long time.

Anywho, Mom’s first post is really interesting because it features the handwriting of different movie stars. So check out her blog and show her some love please 🙂

http://lorettalittlefield.wordpress.com/2012/04/23/intro-to-handwriting-analysis/

Also, it’d be great if you followed her ;). Not only will she be blogging about Handwriting Analysis but also health tips and inspirational posts. My mom is a CNA (Certified Nursing Assistant) so her health tips should be interesting. My mom is also a devout follower of Jesus Christ (and my hero) so her inspirational posts are sure to be heart warming.

I’m so thankful to have such talented and beautiful ladies in my family 🙂

God bless and Remember The High King Lives!~Amber Dover

 

Weekend Special: Life is Beautiful, Holocaust Memorial in SL, & Our Twins in Heaven April 21, 2012

Hello friends, today I’m doing a weekend special…a combo of Virtual Friday, Media Saturday, and My Family Rocks! Sunday. I’ll be discussing the Holocaust and also the loss of our twins we were going to adopt.

#1 “Life is Beautiful” review

Let’s start with a media review of the Italian film “Life is Beautiful” or “La Vita E Bella”. Here is a brief synopsis from Wikipedia.

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Synopsis on Wiki: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Life_Is_Beautiful

“Life Is Beautiful (Italian: La vita è bella) is a 1997 Italian film which tells the story of a Jewish Italian, Guido Orefice (played by Roberto Benigni, who also directed and co-wrote the film), who must employ his fertile imagination to help his family during their internment in a Nazi concentration camp. Part of the film came from Benigni’s own family history; before his birth Roberto’s father had survived three years of internment at the Bergen-Belsen concentration camp.

  1. At the 71st Academy Awards in 1999, Benigni won the Academy Award for Best Actor and the film won both the Academy Award for Best Original Dramatic Score and the Academy Award for Best Foreign Language Film.”

My review:
“Life is Beautiful” or “La Vita e Bella” in Italian is one of my favorite movies. It’s rated PG-13 simply because it deals with the Holocaust. This movie covers so many things…love, pain, fear, laughter…..hope. I have seen the movie with subtitles and also the English dub. I prefer watching it with subtitles and listening to the Italian. There are certain sayings that don’t make sense unless you hear them say it in Italian. Now if you don’t like foreign films please give this movie a chance. I had a friend in Highschool who didn’t think she would like it but at the end of the film she was crying.

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The first half of the movie is a love story. Guido and his buddy move in with his uncle. Guido becomes a waiter at his Uncle’s hotel. Guido saves a school teacher, Dora from falling out of a barn window. Throughout the film Guido finds hilarious ways to surprise Dora…for instance pretending to be a school official just so he can ask her on a date. It gets  funny when the REAL official shows up. The problem is that Dora is engaged and she comes from a wealthy family. Dora’s mom expects her to marry into wealth as well. We also find that Guido is Jewish and there are many racists people…including Dora’s mom. Guido is super funny but he’s also very romantic. Girls get ready to swoon. The guy may be partially bald and goofy looking but his poetry rocks :).

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The second half of the movie we see Dora and Guido are married. Their union has caused a rift in Dora’s relationship with her mom. Guido and Dora have an adorable little boy named Giosuè (sounds like Joshway). Giosuè is just as witty and goofy as his father. He’s also charming and too cute for words. Giosuè helps Guido in their bookstore. We see racist graffiti on the door and you know we’re about to see Nazis. The whimsical fairytale beginning takes a turn for the worse. Guido, Giosuè, and Guido’s uncle are taken to a concentration camp. Dora isn’t Jewish but she begs to take the train too.

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There are some disturbing scenes so be warned. This is about the Holocaust. Guido never loses his sense of humor though. Guido tells Giosuè that they are in a strange survival game. The winner gets a big tank. Guido does all he can to protect his son from the horrors of war. The child even escapes the gas chambers by refusing to take a shower. He has to hide the rest of the movie. Guido finds ways to get messages to Dora despite their separation. Overall, the end is good…..bittersweet. The film makes it’s point: Life is beautiful and worth fighting for.

Life is Beautiful trailer

#2 Virtual Israel in SL~Holocaust Memorial Visit Israel (30, 135, 25)


There is a nifty spot in the virtual world called Israel. Don’t think you’ll ever get to visit the real life Israel? Take a trip in SecondLife to this tourist sim and see the sights! 🙂 The Israel sim has tons of info on the Israeli culture. I had hoped to show you pictures from the Yad Vashem Children’s Memorial, a SL Holocaust memorial based on the real life memorial. But it was under construction :(. This sim has been around for awhile so I’m sure the memorial will be back up soon. I’ve got other pictures to share with you though and here’s a little info on the RL memorial.

Yad Vashem Children’s Memorial in Real Life. Excerpt from: http://www1.yadvashem.org/yv/en/remembrance/childrens_memorial.asp

“This unique memorial, hollowed out from an underground cavern, is a tribute to the approximately 1.5 million Jewish children who were murdered during the Holocaust. Memorial candles, a customary Jewish tradition to remember the dead, are reflected infinitely in a dark and somber space, creating the impression of millions of stars shining in the firmament. The names of murdered children, their ages and countries of origin can be heard in the background.
The children’s names are taken from Pages of Testimony in the Hall of Names, Yad Vashem.

The Children’s Memorial was designed by architect Moshe Safdie and built with the generous donation of Abe and Edita Spiegel, whose son Uziel was murdered in Auschwitz at the age of two and a half.”

Western Wall

The Western Wall in Sl is awesome. You can click the picture and write your own note for the wall. Then the people will put your note in the real life Western Wall :). Another good reason to visit the virtual world.

Dead Sea

The Dead Sea was fun. Enjoy the pics 🙂 It really looks like I’m floating and then sinking in the mud lol.

Tel Aviv

Amphitheater

Dome of the Rock

Church of the Holy Sepulcher (click on the pic to see it larger)

Anywho, speaking of the virtual world….I haven’t been on in awhile. I visited the Christian orphanage where my avatar lives to find it has vanished :(. That’s a common occurrence in Second Life. Unfortunately, people can’t afford the tiers and many wonderful sims disappear off the grid. The RL economy affects the virtual world as well. So I went to a free hotel to change.

There’s a good reason for renting in SecondLife. The hotel was free but some strange person stood outside the door telling me to open the door. I told them the room was private and to go away and they refused…until I threatened to report them. So after I visited Israel I found a new rental. There’s this great kid village with the cutest pastel cottages. There was only one rental left and I got it 🙂

ok moving on to a heavier situation…..

#3 Honoring our Twins in Heaven

I’m pretty open and real on this blog…especially on my Sunday posts when I talk about my family. I do this because I pray my experiences can help others. I’ve been considering talking about a huge issue that I deal with and so many others deal with too: Secondary Infertility.

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Infertility has become a dirty little secret in our society. Many couples suffer in silence because  it’s not something we like to talk about. It’s just too painful. Anywho, we have been trying to have more kids for over five years….since little man was born. I was told my ovaries were weakening fast and that was a couple of years ago. So it would be a miracle for us to have more kids but….I still believe in miracles :). I’m praying the natural doctor I’m going to will help out with this and also my other health issues.

Back in 2010 my husband met a lady who was going to abort her twins. We naturally begged to adopt them. We were so excited. We met the lady and I felt the babies move. There was a connection. I went home and made a baby registry. Our whole family had dreams. Michael wanted to be an older brother.

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But those dreams shattered when I got the call…..the lady was miscarrying. We spent the weekend with her and I was there during the miscarriage….praying etc. There was alot of craziness that I won’t go into but the birth mother didn’t want the babies. I never carried the twins in my stomach but I’ve always carried them in my heart.  They are in Heaven now and I believe they know that we loved them. That they are wanted. And I wonder if my Dad (who died shortly before them) is looking out for his grandchildren up in Heaven.

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When it happened I never fully grieved. I was already broken up because of my Dad dying. Only a few people knew we were even adopting. A couple of people told us they were sorry but for the most part the whole situation was forgotten (except by me). Maybe people just didn’t know what to say. I pushed the grief down deep inside…tried to ignore it.

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We didn’t have any bodies to bury. We broke ties with the lady for the safety of our family. So we have nothing…not even an ultrasound pic. I just remember the moment I felt the babies moved. I wish people would’ve said more about them….validated my feelings. It just felt like the twins were forgotten and never honored. Like people forgot they were real.

Well, lately I’ve been on a Christian infertility forum and I’ve met some amazing ladies. One of them gave me the inspiration to go to the natural doctor. I’ve also met many ladies who have lost children….some by miscarriage..others by adoption. My situation is a little strange since the twins we were going to adopt miscarried. But the mother did not want them and I did so desperately want the babies. I have been so encouraged by these sweet ladies…to let myself grieve and to finally name the children. We thought of names when they were dying but we never got to have a service.

So tomorrow we are finally having a memorial service for the twins, Autumn Grace and Caleb Zachary. They never had a funeral so we are burying a memorial box with baby clothes and trinkets. My son drew them pictures. I’m writing a letter. This weekend I let myself fully grieve over the loss and the painful things we dealt with in the process. For the first time my husband and I talked about how old the twins would be now and all the things they would be doing….they would be one and a half…learning to walk and talk.  I had a good talk with Michael and finally acknowledged that he has siblings in Heaven. He was so young when it happened that he forgot. I thought I couldn’t become more broken after my dad died…I was wrong. But not allowing myself to grieve (because I wasn’t their birth mother) just made things worse.

So I’m glad the twins will finally get the memorial they deserve.  How about you? Have you ever lost a child? What did you do to help yourself through the grieving process? How did you honor their memory? Please feel free to comment.

If you are dealing with infertility or loss please find a good support group. It’s a painful thing and many great women before us have experienced this…..Hannah, Elizabeth, Sarah….ladies from the Bible who all longed for a child. Secondary infertility is painful too in it’s own way. We’re in this struggle together and our Heavenly Father DOES care. I know Jesus Christ has wrapped his arms around me throughout this whole process. I don’t know what His plan is….but I know He loves me.

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God bless and Remember The High King Lives!~Amber Dover

PS: this is the song I listened too when we were going to adopt them. It’s a love song but the words seemed appropriate. “I knew I loved you before I met you…I think I dreamed you into life…”

I knew I loved you by Savage Garden

 

Reblog issues April 18, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — amberdover @ 10:09 am

Hey gang, this is for those who get email. I just did a reblog for my inspirational post. It shows up fine online but messed up in the email. So if you go to my blog you can read it. I hope you do because GodGirl has a great message about gossiping called Heartache in the Chicken Coop.

Anywho, sorry for the technical difficulties….not sure why it does this every once in awhile.

 

God bless and Remember The High King Lives! ~Amber Dover

 

Happy Inspirational Wednesday and thank you GodGirl for this heartfelt post! God bless and Remember The High King Lives!~Amber Dover

It's a God thing...

Ever witnessed a group of people that seem like noisy, over-fed chickens? They flap their ‘feathers’ wildly and squawk about, showing off their knowledge, preening, posturing… indulging in delusions about themselves and the rest of their ‘coop’. These kinds of people love to gossip and make judgements on others’ lives, as if somehow they have the authority to do so…

Perhaps we’re all a bit like this, especially in those times we feel loneliness or weakness. Talking about others behind their backs – or letting a narky comment slip – might temporarily make us feel better about our pain, or relieve boredom – and make us feel like at least we know something others don’t.

I admire people for whom negative comments are water off a duck’s (chicken’s?) back, though they are probably fictional. You can’t be human if an ignorant assumption doesn’t get to you from time to time. I mean, many of us ignore massive abuse from our past for years without confronting it. Of course we’re going to have…

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A Special Moment in My Day April 17, 2012

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Just had to share this picture 🙂

Oh and just for the fun of it….here’s one of my favorite songs. I love this video 🙂

God bless and remember The High King Lives!~Amber Dover