The High King Lives

Inspirational Wednesday: Identity April 18, 2013

Where do we get our identity? How do we know who we are? Are you still trying to find yourself?

Maybe you get your identity from your family or your job? But should you?


I am the mother of Michael. It makes me happy to have that title. I have a sweet boy. But should I find my identity in motherhood? What happens if my child dies or my child grows up and leaves the house? Where would I find my identity then?

I love to blog and people know me as an artsy person. But my identity isn’t in this blog or what I can do. The internet can be taken away from me. I could get sick and lose the ability to craft. I could become a vegetable. Does that mean I’m worthless? that I have no identity? Definitely not.

What about finding identity in your wealth? your country? your friends? Your taste in movies?

I hope you’re getting this. All these things are lovely but if you think that’s who you are then you’re mistaken. Because worldly things are temporal. People die. Cultures change.  And even kingdoms come crashing down.  One day if you live long enough, you’re going to be old, wrinkly, and most of the people you know will be in the grave. Who will you be when that day comes?

  • We are not God.  You did not create yourself and you can not prevent your death. Then why do we look to ourselves for identity? We are a mess of questions.
  • Others are not God. Your parents got together to have you but ultimately God started the whole process. He created the first humans and he makes sure everything works out in the womb. Take this from an infertile myrtle. God opens and closes the womb. If HE closes it then no amount of treatments will make a baby. Your birth was planned by God. You’re not a mistake or an accident. God formed you in the womb.  Everyone is made by the same being. So why would you find your identity from someone who is a mess of questions, just like you?
  • There is a God. His name is Jesus Christ and He made you. He also made the sun, the moon, and the stars. He made everything to be good and it was good before sin brought a curse to this world.
  • Jesus not only created you, He also became the sacrifice to break the curse. He loved you so much that He died for you AND lived for you. Three days later he resurrected so that one day you could resurrect too and have eternal life in Heaven.
  • If you take away all the temporal things and circumstances like wealth and family, we are all the same. We are all human. You may think you’re better than someone else but at any moment you can be humbled. Kings can become paupers in an instant.
  • Our creator should tell us who we are because He made us for His glory and His purposes. Good news! He WANTS to tell us who we are! It doesn’t have to be a mystery. You can find yourself right now :).

So who does God say we are? He tells us in the Bible. (PS: Wondering how we know the Bible is God’s word and how the Bible came to be? Check this book out for details: The Book of God, How We Got the Bible. You can even read it on Kindle right now.  )
Bibbia con rosa

After the fall of man (Adam’s sin) we became strangers to god.

If we give our lives to Jesus then we become sons and daughters of God. This gift of salvation is open to the whole human race but sadly many will reject it.  Beloved, you were mean’t to be a child of God. He wants to adopt you into His family. Sin stole your birthright. Jesus wants you back. He wants to redeem you. Here’s a detailed link about what that exactly means:

Jesus told a story about a father with two sons. One son stayed home and the other demanded his inheritance and squandered it all. This is called the story of The Prodigal Son.After losing everything the son comes back to his Father and begs to become his servant because he knows he’s not worthy enough to be a son. The Father welcomes the prodigal son with open arms and even throws a party. The Bible says the Father ran to his son and embraced him…even though the son had completely messed up.

You can read the story here:

Verses 11-32

Prodigal Son CHS cathedral

Picture By FranzMayerstainedglass (Own work) [GFDL ( or CC-BY-SA-3.0-2.5-2.0-1.0 (, via Wikimedia Commons

What I want to focus on is how the son forgot his identity. The prodigal was born a son to his Father but at one point he got confused in the pig pen. The boy gets work feeding pigs. He’s so desperate that the poor boy is ready to eat with the pigs.

Have you forgotten you’re a son or daughter of God? Are you trying to eat with the pigs? Imagine a prince acting like a pig. It doesn’t make sense! But we often forget who we are in Christ.

When the prodigal gets to His Father he doesn’t even deign to take his place as a son again. He’s ready to become his Father’s servant. But the Father forgives his son and reminds the prodigal of his true identity. It’s beautiful. You’re not a servant and you’re not a pig! You’re my boy and I love you!


By rosier (Own work) [GFDL ( or CC-BY-SA-3.0-2.5-2.0-1.0 (, via Wikimedia Commons

Someone dear to me once told me of a time in their life where they were in the pig pen. They had not been a Christian long and had allowed someone to drag them in the mud (sin). One day it hit them. They were in the pig pen. It was filthy and they did not belong in that mess.

I often remind Michael, my son, that he is not an animal so he needs to act accordingly.

Son, you’re not an animal. Don’t eat like one.

How often do I want to shout at the world: You’re not animals! Stop acting like it!

And there have been times that I myself realize that I’ve been pigging out on hog food when the King of Kings has set out a banquet for me. Get off the floor and sit at the table with the King. You’re a princess now!

You see, when the prodigal lost his money everyone starting treating him like trash.  What a lesson! The world may say you’re a pig but that doesn’t matter. All that matters is what the Creator says about you.

Sometimes I get confused about my identity. I’ve learned the hard way and I’m still learning. Once I put my identity in being a wife but the rug got pulled out from under me when my husband was sent to war. I was alone and depressed. It was a dark time but God reminded me to trust him alone.

A similar time came when my Father died. My Dad was a minister and had a special relationship with God. I too often relied on my Dad’s faith for answers. When Daddy died I wanted to die too. It was like all the air had been sucked out of the room. I didn’t have anyone I could talk to like Dad. I found myself going to my Heavenly Father and getting to know Him more. Often times of loneliness have drawn me closer to Jesus. I think that’s why Dad and God were so close. All that time Daddy was bedridden he could only look up and pray.


And finally a small case of mistaken identity. I used to act in community theater. I have a few leading roles to my name. It was always exciting to play a leading lady. People gave me attention I never received before. It’s like for a moment I became someone important. It was just small time theater but I got caught up in it. It didn’t take long to realize that people were fans of my character, not the real me.  I remember this one guy that gave me a lot of compliments when I was in my stage makeup. He saw me at the store in my Mom clothes and didn’t recognize me at all. I was no longer glamorous or important to him. In a small way I learned not to put my identity into the things I do.

My prayer is that this blog will never become an idol in my life and that I won’t find my identity here. Yes, I have followers and there are people who like my content. But only God knows me completely and loves me for who I am. People are wishy washy. One minute they like you and the next they don’t.  Even those closest to us can forsake us. God is the ONLY one who loves us completely while knowing everything about us. God knows our past and our future. He still chose to send His son to die for us. That’s love!

Ezekial drawing

“Ezekial 16:8-14” by Amber Dover. Don’t copy.

This is my identity and it will be my identity for eternity: I am a Daughter of God. Who am I? I am His. What does that mean? I should be secure in God’s love. I have worth.  The world can call me trash but I am God’s Princess. My Daddy is the King of Kings. I am sealed by the Holy Spirit. When the Father looks at me He sees Jesus because I am in Christ. I should never settle for the pig pen when I’ve got God’s kingdom. Jesus is my home and my foundation. No one can take that away from me. So when my youth fades and  I lose this world I won’t lose my identity. Death, sickness, and poverty can not change who I am. I can become a vegetable and I will still have worth. I will still be God’s child. So I want to know what He thinks of me and what He wants me to do. I want to act like God’s child…not an animal. And if I stumble….if I go prodigal….I am still God’s child and His arms are open…just waiting for me to come back home.

So come on beloved. Get out of the pig pen. We’ve got a party to attend. The Father’s waiting ;).


God bless & remember the High King lives! ~Amber Dover

PS: Here’s a great story to check out. Learn about Punchinello and the Wemmicks and the kind Wood Carver that made them. After you check it out, ask yourself: do the stars and dots stick to you?

You are Special by Max Lucado (remember email sub. to come to my blog to see the video link)

Who Am I ~Casting Crowns


2 Responses to “Inspirational Wednesday: Identity”

  1. humphreyjen Says:

    Great post, Amber! I, too, struggle with getting my value and identity from everyone and everything BUT God. He has been faithful to gently show me this. He helps me learn to trust Him and what He says about me in His Word.

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